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12/23/2021

8/10/2023 06:21:59 am

Dear Margaret. I wish I could say I have no clue what you're saying, but I lost my brother to cancer over ten years ago. I also wish I could tell you that you'll get over it. But you won't. The pain eases, but the missing never goes away.

But I will tell you this. Before my brother died, he asked me to forgive him. I was stunned. Forgive him for what? He was my big brother, and I loved him. He told me that I was the one who would be left on earth to bury our parents and other siblings. He was going to be the first to go in our family. I didn't quite get what he was saying, but promised not to be angry..

Then he died. The first day of his funeral services, I had to stand by my mom and dad in their grief. From nowhere, the thought trickled through my mind...damn it, Grub (my brother's nickname). You always did take the easy route.

Then I heard his voice clear as day in my head...you promised not to be angry.

He understood better than I did. I'm keeping my promise, but one day, when I meet him at the Pearly Gates. I'm going to kick him in the ass.

Margaret

9/6/2023 08:44:58 am

Dear Elizabeth, please excuse the delay in responding to your thoughtful post. We are still traveling currently in Canada as we make our way back towards the desert for the winter. I was fortunate that both my parents were not alive to hear my eulogy or to be by his side when he passed. Today is one of those days where my grief is too big of a wake my boat can handle. I'm not good with how vulnerable it leaves me feeling. One moment of grief at a time. Take care and thank you.

Melissa Maygrove link

9/6/2023 05:30:50 am

I am so sorry you are going through this. I have been blessed not to lose a sibling. I can't imagine. Going through 'the change' at the same time is brutal.

Margaret LIndgren

9/6/2023 08:57:06 am

Dear Melissa, thank you for your comment and your thoughts. Being by his side when he passed was a blessing and also remains the biggest emotional challenge of my life. But I'm glad I was there above all else. It's a bumpy road that has taken me, willing or not, to a new level.

Living and Loss on the RV ride of a lifetime

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